World as Myth

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Anonymous asked: I was wondering what the best way to go about finding a dom is. I'm new to the community and I'm 18.

dominant-daddy:

This is the most frequently asked question I receive on tumblr and one of the most alarming. You’re new to BDSM and only 18 so one would have to assume you’re a novice with little or no experience (or you would know the answer to the question already).

I could respond with “try fetlife or collar me”, but one would, again, have to assume you have no idea what they are?

Let me ask you some questions? What is SSC v RACK? What are your hard limits? What are your guidelines with regards to a scene? Whats the difference between humiliation, depersonalization and degradation? Have you used a vampire glove before? Tell me about your realistic expectations you need from a Dominant and the relationship? How do you know if a Dom is the right Dom for you? What are the ‘red flag’ warnings of a fake/predator Dom? Are you a switch? Does ‘shibari’ interest you? Have you used a ‘sybian’ in the past? Are there any local munches you could attend? Do you know what ‘BDSM’ means? How do you personally identify as a submissive? Define your protocols regarding discipline and behaviour correction.

BDSM is a lifestyle that needs to be understood and learned. Any novice who identifies as submissive should begin to read, read and read some more and see what appeals to you and what interests you. Learn about all aspects and flavors of kink, fetish and the D/s lifestyle. How can you set limits, protocol or know what you want from D/s if you don’t know what you’re entering into?

I recommend all new submissives to read through this:

The novice submissive  (Original source: bdsmdebunkingthemyths.com)

There’s a collection of resourses HERE with many essays. etc and I’ll provide some useful links for you to start with:

D/s help and info for newbies  (Source: wizdomme.com)

BDSM Safety  (Source: bdsmcaffe.com)

BDSM general guidelines  (Source: missdi.co.za)

How To Spot A Non Dominant (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Run Don’t Walk: Warning Signs of A Predator Dom/me Part 1 (Source: submissiveguide.com)

Run Don’t Walk: Warning Signs of A Predator Dom/me Part 2 (Source: submissiveguide.com)

Red Flags, Warning Signs, and Intuition: Learning to Trust You Instincts - Part One: Dominants (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

What Makes A Good Dominant (Source: Kim Debron / kimdebron.tripod.com)

What Should A Dominant Be (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Qualities of a successful Dominant  (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

10 Considerations For Inexperienced Subs (Source: fortheloveofasub.tumblr.com)

Introduction To Submission (Source: Kim Debron / kimdebron.tripod.com)

Ten Tips For The Novice, Heterosexual submissive Woman (Source: Jay Wiseman / the-iron-gate.com)

There are many more essays and help/advice links to be found:

BDSM Help & Advice

Questions answered

BDSM Links & Resources

Library For Kinksters (Source: dominantlife.tumblr.com)

Please take the time to read through these and educate yourself before entering into a relationship. Knowledge with help keep you safe, give you confidence and BDSM will be less intimidating. You’ll have all the answers you need.

There are also a selection of books on BDSM:

BDSM: The Naked Truth by Dr Charley Ferrer
Dear Raven and Joshua: Questions and Answers About Master/Slave Relationships by Joshua Tenpenny and Raven Kaldera
Devil in the Details I: The Art of Mastery, A Mentoring Trilogy - The Master, The Slave, The Power by LT Morrison
Devil in the Details II: The Art of Mastery, A Mentoring Trilogy - Mastery Refine: The Issues, The Skills by LT Morrison
Devil in the Details III: The Art of Mastery, A Mentoring Trilogy - Sustainable Structure and Traning by LT Morrison
Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance and Submission by William Brame, Gloria Brame and Jon Jacobs
Living M/s: A Book for Masters, slaves and Their Relationships by Dan and Dawn Williams
Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice by Robert Rubel
Master/slave Relations: Communications 401 by Robert Rubel
Master/slave Relations: Solutions 402, Living in Harmony by Robert Rubel
Protocols: A Variety of Views by Robert Rubel
Real Service by Joshua Tenpenny and Raven Kaldera
Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism by Phillp Miller and Molly Devon
SM101: A Realistic Introduction by Jay Wiseman
The Control Book by Peter Masters
The Loving Dominant by John and Libby Warren
The New Bottoming Book by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy.
The New Topping Book by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy.
The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge by Tristan Taormino
This Curious Human Phenomenon: An Exploration of Some Uncommonly Explored Aspects of BDSM by Peter Masters
Where I Am Led: A Service Exploration Workbook by Christina Parker

(Source: desires-of-a-dominant-man.tumblr.com)

There’s an essay I recently wrote with information/help on finding a D/s partner below, but I would urge you to be patient and wait until you have the confidence, knowledge and understanding behind you before you begin your search

Searching for a D/s partner

For ALL novice submissive, please… do the study before taking the test. For your own safety and wellbeing. I recieve too many messages from inexperienced subs who are taken advantage of and abused by unscrupulous ‘so-called’ dominants. Stay safe.

D~D

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The sixty-second His Last Vow

John:
Marriage has not solved all my problems
Sherlock:
Running away has not solved all my problems
Mary:
Hating you both
Janine:
Hi
John:
John:
John:
John:
What
Sherlock:
Ha ha
John:
Imma kill you so hard
Magnussen:
Can open fluids everywhere
Everyone:
Ew
Sherlock:
Janine ilu marry me
John:
WHAT
Sherlock:
jk
John:
WEIRDO
Sherlock:
Mary?
Mary:
Imma kill you so hard
Mary:
[kills Sherlock so hard]
Sherlock:
Ow
Jim:
Hiiiiiiiiiiiiii
Sherlock:
Maybe I should have gone out with you after all
Jim:
Mary's gonna kill John so hard
Sherlock:
Fuck
Sherlock:
Not dead
Mary:
Imma kill you so hard again
Sherlock:
Running away will solve all my problems
John:
I don't understand
Mary:
La la la la la
Sherlock:
Mary
Mary:
Sherlock
Sherlock:
Not Mary
Mary:
Imma kill you so hard again again
John:
Mary
Mary:
JOHN
Mary:
wtf did I just do oh fuck
John:
MARY
Sherlock:
John
John:
Sherlock
Sherlock:
Mary?
Mary:
La la la la la
John:
Mary?
Mary:
La la la la la
Sherlock:
Mary
Sherlock:
Sherlock:
Sherlock:
...killed me so hard only she didn't kill me so hard
Mary:
Yes good
John:
Imma kill you both so hard
Sherlock:
Ow
Mummy Holmes:
Mike
Mycroft:
No
Mr. Holmes:
My wife is a genius and really fucking hot all the time
Mary:
Ha ha
Mr. Holmes:
But I'm normal and so are you
Mary:
La la la la la
John:
Mary
Mary:
John
John:
Marriage will solve all my problems
Mary:
Yes good
Sherlock:
Marriage will solve all their problems
Sherlock:
Magnussen you lose
Magnussen:
No YOU lose
Magnussen:
OMG JUST KISS ALREADY
Sherlock:
Imma kill you so hard
Sherlock:
[kills Magnussen so hard]
John:
wtf did you just do oh fuck
Sherlock:
wtf did I just do oh fuck
Mycroft:
Running away will solve all your problems
Sherlock:
where's John
Mycroft:
OMG JUST KISS ALREADY
Sherlock:
John
John:
Sherlock
Sherlock:
John:
Sherlock:
John:
Sherlock:
Everyone:
OMG JUST KISS ALREADY ASEDGSHSFDJKSDFKDL
Sherlock:
John
John:
What
Sherlock:
Sherlock:
jk
John:
Sherlock
Sherlock:
What
John:
John:
jk
Sherlock:
Running away will solve all my problems
John:
Marriage will solve all my problems
Mary:
Yes good
THE END
Jim:
Hiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii
Jim:
I WILL SOLVE ALL OF YOUR PROBLEMS
Everyone:
wtf did you just do oh fuck

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ivyblossom:

I’ve decided to express my judgment of celebrities’ apparent technical skills by guessing what their wireless networks are called.

Steven Moffat: ┓┏ 凵 =╱⊿┌┬┐
Mark Gatiss: MI5 Surveillance Van #4458
Benedict Cumberbatch: linksys
Martin Freeman: CLICK HERE FOR INTERNET MARTIN

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So the gender difference in toddler underwear is pissing me off. I’m potty training my daughter apparently the only things she’s allowed to wear on her crotch must be pink and adorned with female cartoon characters. Since she’s also into Mickey Mouse and Disney Pixar movies, we have also bought her a bunch of little-boy-style underwear with the double panel in front, because that is the only way they’re available and she wants Donald Duck on her butt, damn it.

I mean honestly, since when is Mickey Mouse for boys only? Or goddamn Disney films? What the hell?

And what if a boy is into Doc McStuffins? Shit out of luck, son. Those only come in girl style, and I’m given to understand the whole double panel thing is important when boys are still learning.